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Motherhood and Mental Health: Breaking the Stigma and Seeking Support

Motherhood is a beautiful and transformative experience, but it can also be challenging and overwhelming, especially when it comes to mental health. Unfortunately, there is still a stigma around mental health, and mothers are often hesitant to seek help for fear of being judged or seen as a failure. In this article, we will explore the importance of breaking the stigma around mental health in motherhood and seeking support when needed.

The reality is that motherhood can be stressful, and it is not uncommon for mothers to experience mental health challenges. According to the American Psychological Association, up to one in seven women experience postpartum depression, and many more experience anxiety, mood disorders, and other mental health challenges throughout motherhood. These challenges can be caused by a variety of factors, including hormonal changes, lack of sleep, isolation, and the pressure to be the perfect mother.

Despite the prevalence of mental health challenges in motherhood, there is still a stigma around seeking help. Many mothers feel ashamed or embarrassed about their mental health struggles, and they may worry that seeking help will make them appear weak or incompetent. This stigma can be especially prevalent in communities of color, where there may be cultural and societal pressures to appear strong and resilient at all times.

However, the reality is that seeking help for mental health challenges is a sign of strength and resilience, not weakness. It takes courage to admit when something is not right and to take steps to address it. By seeking help, mothers can get the support they need to overcome their challenges and become better mothers to their children.

So how can mothers break the stigma around mental health and seek support?

The first step is to recognize that mental health challenges are normal and that seeking help is a sign of strength. It is important to remember that seeking help does not make a mother a failure, but rather a proactive step towards becoming a healthier and happier parent.

The second step is to find a support system. This can be a trusted friend or family member, a therapist or counselor, or a support group for mothers such as the Kuponya Group. It is important to find someone who can provide a safe and non-judgmental space for sharing and listening.

Additionally prioritizing self-care is so important. Mothers often put the needs of their children and families before their own, but it is crucial to take time for oneself. This can include practicing mindfulness, getting regular exercise, engaging in creative activities, or simply taking a break when needed.

Fourthly, It is also important to create a support system that includes healthcare professionals. This can include a primary care physician or OB/GYN, as well as a mental health professional. These professionals can provide screening and treatment for mental health challenges, as well as referrals to specialists if needed.

Lastly, it is important to recognize that seeking help is an ongoing process. Mental health challenges may come and go throughout motherhood, and it is important to continue seeking support as needed. This may involve regular check-ins with a mental health professional or participating in a support group.

Breaking the stigma around mental health in motherhood is crucial for the well-being of mothers and their families. By recognizing that mental health challenges are normal and seeking support when needed, mothers can become better equipped to handle the stresses and challenges of motherhood. This can lead to happier, healthier families and a brighter future for all.

In conclusion, motherhood can be challenging, and mental health challenges are not uncommon. However, there is still a stigma around seeking help, which can prevent mothers from getting the support they need. By breaking the stigma and seeking support, mothers can become better equipped to handle the challenges of motherhood and become happier, healthier parents. It is time to prioritize mental health in motherhood and create a supportive and non-judgmental space for mothers to seek help when needed.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American motherhood aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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The Power of Sisterhood: Building Strong Communities for Mothers of Color

Sisterhood is a powerful force, especially for mothers of color who often face unique challenges and obstacles in their lives. Building a strong community of support is crucial for the well-being and success of mothers of color and their families. In this article, we will explore the power of sisterhood and how it can help mothers of color build strong communities.

First and foremost, sisterhood provides a sense of belonging and support. When mothers of color connect with other women who share similar experiences and struggles, they feel validated and seen. They know that they are not alone in their journey, and that there are others who understand and can relate to their challenges. This sense of belonging can provide a source of comfort and strength, helping mothers of color to face their challenges with renewed determination and resilience.

Sisterhood also provides a space for sharing knowledge and resources. Mothers of color often face systemic barriers that can make it difficult to access resources and support. But when women come together in a community of sisterhood, they can share their knowledge, expertise, and resources, creating a network of support that benefits everyone. This can range from sharing tips on navigating the school system to providing career advice or simply sharing recipes for healthy meals.

Furthermore, sisterhood can provide opportunities for personal and professional growth. When women connect and collaborate, they can create new opportunities for themselves and others. For example, a group of mothers of color might start a business together, or create a mentorship program to help younger women navigate their careers. By working together, women can uplift and empower each other to achieve their goals and dreams.

Another important aspect of sisterhood is the opportunity to heal and grow. Many mothers of color face trauma and discrimination in their lives, and these experiences can have a profound impact on their well-being. By coming together in a community of sisterhood, women can share their stories and support each other in healing and growing from their experiences. This can include everything from therapy referrals to wellness workshops to simply creating a safe space for sharing and listening.

So how can mothers of color build strong communities of sisterhood? The first step is to seek out other women who share similar experiences and struggles. This can be done through online groups, social media, or local organizations and events. The key is to find a space where women can connect and share in a safe and supportive environment.

Once a community of sisterhood is established, it is important to prioritize communication and collaboration. This means creating regular opportunities for women to connect and share, whether it be through group meetings, online forums, or social events. It also means being open to sharing knowledge, resources, and expertise, and being willing to collaborate on projects and initiatives.

In addition, it is important to prioritize self-care and wellness within the community. This means creating spaces and opportunities for women to prioritize their own well-being, whether it be through wellness workshops, meditation groups, or simply taking a day off to rest and recharge.

Finally, it is important to recognize that building a community of sisterhood is an ongoing process that requires patience, dedication, and commitment. Women may face challenges and setbacks along the way, but by staying connected and supporting each other, they can create a powerful force for positive change in their lives and communities.

In conclusion, sisterhood is a powerful force for mothers of color. By building strong communities of support, women can find a sense of belonging, share knowledge and resources, create opportunities for growth, and heal from trauma and discrimination. To build a strong community of sisterhood, it is important to prioritize communication, collaboration, self-care, and ongoing commitment. By doing so, mothers of color can create a brighter future for themselves, their families, and their communities.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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Beyond Biology: Understanding the Concept of ‘Other Mothers’ in Creating Healthy Families and Communities

For many Black women, the concept of “other mothers” is a vital part of their experience of motherhood. Coined by scholar Patricia Hill Collins, the term refers to women who parent children who are not their own. But for writer and thinker bell hooks, the concept of “other mothers” goes beyond just a description of a role. It is a way of understanding the importance of community and the power of women’s relationships.

In hooks’ view, “other mothers” are not just women who happen to be involved in the lives of children. They are women who offer support, guidance, and care to those around them. They are women who are invested in the well-being of their communities and who recognize that the health of the community depends on the health of its members.

For hooks, the concept of “other mothers” is rooted in a deep understanding of the importance of relationships. She writes, “In my life, other mothers have been those women who have been my guides, my models, my teachers, my friends. They have shown me the importance of love, of care, of community.”

Hooks’ own experience of motherhood was shaped by the presence of “other mothers” in her life. As a young mother, she was supported and guided by a community of women who saw her as one of their own. These women offered not just practical support, but emotional and spiritual support as well. They recognized the challenges that hooks faced as a young mother and offered encouragement and guidance when she needed it most.

Through her work, hooks has emphasized the importance of community and relationships in the lives of Black women. She has argued that the health of the community depends on the health of its members, and that women play a vital role in creating and sustaining healthy communities. “Other mothers” are a key part of this equation, offering care and support to those around them.

But the concept of “other mothers” is not just about motherhood. It is about the importance of relationships in all areas of life. As hooks writes, “We all need other mothers in our lives. We need people who will care for us, support us, and guide us. We need people who will challenge us to be our best selves and who will hold us accountable when we fall short.”

In a society that often values individualism and self-sufficiency, the concept of “other mothers” offers a powerful alternative. It reminds us of the importance of community and relationships, and of the ways in which we all rely on each other for support and care. It challenges us to be more than just individuals, but to be members of a larger community.

For Black women, the concept of “other mothers” is particularly important. In a society that has historically devalued and marginalized Black women, the presence of other women who offer care and support can be transformative. These relationships can provide a sense of belonging and connection that is essential for mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

But the concept of “other mothers” is not limited to Black women. It is a concept that can be embraced by all people who recognize the importance of community and relationships. Whether we are mothers or not, we all need people in our lives who will offer care and support, who will challenge us to be our best selves, and who will hold us accountable when we fall short.

In the end, the concept of “other mothers” is a reminder of the power of relationships and the importance of community. It challenges us to move beyond individualism and self-sufficiency and to recognize the ways in which we all rely on each other for support and care. It reminds us that we are not alone, and that we all have a role to play in creating and sustaining healthy communities

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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The Myth of Sacrifice: Why Moms of Color Deserve to Prioritize Their Own Needs

As a mom of color, you face unique challenges that can make it difficult to prioritize self-care. From the pressures of parenting to systemic oppression and discrimination, it’s easy to put your own needs on the back burner. However, it’s essential that moms of color begin to put themselves first and prioritize their own well-being. Here are some reasons why self-care is so important.

  1. You can’t pour from an empty cup: As a mom, you’re often tasked with caring for others. Whether it’s your children, partner, or extended family, it’s easy to become so focused on their needs that you neglect your own. However, if you’re not taking care of yourself, you won’t be able to care for others effectively. Prioritizing self-care means ensuring that your own needs are met so that you can be the best version of yourself for those around you.
  2. Your mental health matters: The stressors of being a mom of color can take a toll on your mental health. From the trauma of systemic oppression to the daily struggles of parenting, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and anxious. Prioritizing self-care means taking time to tend to your mental health, whether that means seeking therapy, practicing mindfulness, or engaging in other stress-reducing activities.
  3. You deserve to feel good: As a mom of color, you may have experienced discrimination or oppression, which can make you feel undervalued or unworthy. Prioritizing self-care means recognizing that you deserve to feel good and taking steps to prioritize your own well-being.
  4. Modeling healthy behaviors for your children: As a mom, you’re a role model for your children. Prioritizing self-care means modeling healthy behaviors for your children, demonstrating that it’s important to take care of oneself and prioritize one’s own well-being.
  5. Resistance to systemic oppression: As a mom of color, prioritizing self-care is an act of resistance against systemic oppression. By taking care of yourself, you’re rejecting the idea that you must constantly put others first and sacrifice your own needs for the greater good. You’re demonstrating that you deserve care and attention, and that you won’t allow yourself to be marginalized or devalued.

So, how can you begin to prioritize self-care as a mom of color? Here are some tips:

  1. Carve out time for yourself: Whether it’s 30 minutes or a few hours, make time for yourself every day. Use this time to engage in activities that bring you joy and help you relax.
  2. Seek support: Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Reach out to friends, family members, or community resources for support.
  3. Engage in stress-reducing activities: Practice mindfulness, meditation, yoga, or other stress-reducing activities. These can help you manage the stressors of daily life and promote relaxation.
  4. Connect with others: Find a community of moms of color who understand your experiences and can offer support and encouragement. This can help you feel less alone and provide a sense of belonging.
  5. Prioritize your mental health: Seek therapy or counseling if you’re struggling with mental health issues. This can help you manage symptoms and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

In conclusion, prioritizing self-care is essential for moms of color. It’s an act of resistance against systemic oppression, a way to model healthy behaviors for your children, and a means of ensuring that you can care for others effectively. By carving out time for yourself, seeking support, engaging in stress-reducing activities, connecting with others, and prioritizing your mental health, you can begin to put yourself first and prioritize your own well-being. Remember, you deserve care and attention.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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The Art of Love and Money: Single Mothers and Their Desire for Wealthy Partners

It’s not uncommon for single mothers to find themselves attracted to rich men. The idea of financial security and the potential for a lavish lifestyle can be enticing. However, dating a wealthy man comes with its own set of challenges and potential pitfalls. If you’re a single mother looking to date a rich man, here are some things to consider.

  1. Be clear about what you’re looking for: Before entering into a relationship with a wealthy man, it’s important to be clear about what you’re looking for. Are you looking for financial security, or do you want a genuine connection with someone who happens to be wealthy? Be honest with yourself about your motivations for pursuing a relationship with a rich man.
  2. Be aware of power dynamics: When dating a wealthy man, it’s important to be aware of power dynamics. Money can create an imbalance in a relationship, and it’s important to ensure that your needs and desires are being met, regardless of your partner’s financial status.
  3. Avoid gold-digging behavior: It’s important to avoid behaviors that could be seen as gold-digging. This includes making constant demands for gifts or financial support, or expecting your partner to foot the bill for everything. Instead, focus on building a genuine connection with your partner based on mutual interests and values.
  4. Be prepared for a different lifestyle: Dating a wealthy man may mean adjusting to a different lifestyle. This can include attending high-end events, traveling to exotic locations, or having access to expensive possessions. It’s important to be prepared for these changes and to determine if they align with your own values and lifestyle.
  5. Be aware of potential pitfalls: Wealthy men may be seen as targets for financial scams and fraud. It’s important to be aware of these potential pitfalls and to protect yourself financially. Avoid giving out personal information or money, and be cautious when engaging in financial transactions.
  6. Be confident and independent: When dating a wealthy man, it’s important to maintain your own independence and confidence. This includes having your own career and financial stability, as well as maintaining your own interests and hobbies. Don’t lose sight of your own goals and aspirations, and don’t rely solely on your partner for financial support.

In conclusion, dating a wealthy man can be an attractive prospect for single mothers, but it’s important to approach these relationships with caution and a clear understanding of your own motivations and boundaries. Be aware of power dynamics and potential pitfalls, and prioritize your own well-being and independence. By doing so, you can navigate the dating scene successfully and find a relationship that is fulfilling and supportive.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Strategies for Success

Co-parenting is often challenging, but it can be especially difficult when one parent is a narcissist. Narcissists are known for their lack of empathy, manipulative behavior, and desire for control. Co-parenting with a narcissist can be emotionally draining and can have a negative impact on both the parent and the child. However, there are strategies you can use to co-parent successfully with a narcissist.

Understanding Narcissistic Behavior

Before we discuss strategies for co-parenting with a narcissist, it’s essential to understand some of the traits and behaviors that are common in narcissistic individuals. Narcissists have an inflated sense of self-importance and often believe they are superior to others. They lack empathy, struggle to form healthy relationships, and have an insatiable desire for control and admiration.

Narcissists often use manipulation and emotional abuse to control others, and they can be highly reactive when they feel challenged or criticized. They may engage in behaviors like gaslighting (making someone doubt their own reality), lying, or twisting the truth to get what they want. Co-parenting with a narcissist can be difficult, but it’s essential to understand the reasons behind their behavior to develop strategies to cope effectively.

Strategies for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist

Co-parenting with a narcissist requires patience, planning, and a willingness to set boundaries. Here are some strategies for successful co-parenting with a narcissist:

  1. Set Boundaries: Narcissists are known for their need for control, and co-parenting can be a perfect opportunity for them to exert their control. Establishing clear boundaries about communication, decision-making, and schedules can help prevent the narcissist from manipulating or controlling the situation. Use written agreements, such as a parenting plan or email communication, to help enforce these boundaries.
  2. Keep Emotions in Check: Narcissists can be skilled at manipulating others and pushing buttons to get an emotional reaction. Stay calm and focused when dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, and avoid reacting to their provocations. Focus on the facts and try to avoid engaging in personal attacks or accusations.
  3. Practice Empathy: While it can be challenging to empathize with a narcissist, try to see things from their perspective. Recognize that their behavior is often driven by their own insecurities and need for control. By understanding their perspective, you may be better equipped to manage their behavior and communicate effectively.
  4. Involve a Neutral Third Party: Consider using a neutral third party, such as a mediator or therapist, to help manage communication and decision-making. A mediator can help diffuse conflicts and facilitate communication, while a therapist can help both parties work through their issues and develop strategies for healthy co-parenting.
  5. Focus on the Child: The most important consideration in any co-parenting arrangement is the well-being of the child. Focus on what is best for the child and try to put your personal feelings aside. Keep the child’s needs and interests at the forefront of your decision-making.
  6. Seek Professional Help: Co-parenting with a narcissist can be emotionally challenging and can impact your mental health. If you are struggling to cope, consider seeking professional help. A therapist can provide guidance and support as you navigate the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist.

Here is an example list of boundaries that could be sent to a narcissistic co-parent:

  1. Communication boundaries: Establish clear communication boundaries, such as limiting communication to email or text messages. Clearly define when communication will take place, and set expectations for a timely response.
  2. Decision-making boundaries: Clearly define decision-making boundaries, such as which decisions will be made jointly, and which will be made independently. Consider creating a parenting plan to clearly outline these boundaries.
  3. Personal boundaries: Set boundaries around personal space and time. Establish clear times when the narcissistic co-parent will not be allowed to visit or communicate with you.
  4. Respect boundaries: Establish boundaries around respect and civility. Clearly communicate that name-calling, insults, or disrespectful behavior will not be tolerated.
  5. Financial boundaries: Set clear boundaries around financial responsibilities and expectations. Establish how expenses will be divided, and set expectations for timely payment.
  6. Parenting boundaries: Clearly define expectations around parenting behaviors and values. Set boundaries around discipline, screen time, and other important issues.
  7. Emergency boundaries: Establish clear boundaries around emergency situations. Define what constitutes an emergency and what steps will be taken in case of an emergency.
  8. Legal boundaries: Establish clear boundaries around legal issues. Define expectations around legal representation and decision-making.
  9. Privacy boundaries: Establish clear boundaries around privacy. Define what information will be shared and what information will be kept confidential.
  10. Consistency boundaries: Establish clear boundaries around consistency. Clearly define expectations around consistency in parenting behaviors, schedules, and routines.

These boundaries should be communicated clearly and assertively. It may be helpful to work with a therapist or mediator to establish these boundaries and communicate them effectively. Remember, setting clear boundaries is essential for establishing a healthy co-parenting relationship, and it is important to prioritize your well-being and the well-being of your child.

Conclusion

Co-parenting with a narcissist can be difficult, but it is possible to co-parent successfully with the right strategies in place. By understanding the reasons behind the narcissist’s behavior, setting boundaries, staying focused on the child’s needs, and seeking professional help, you can navigate the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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The Road to Recovery: Overcoming the Trauma of Growing Up with a Narcissistic Parent

The Narcissistic Parent

Growing up with a narcissistic parent can be a traumatic experience. Narcissistic parents are often manipulative, controlling, and emotionally abusive. They may make their children feel like they are never good enough and can leave a lasting impact on their self-esteem and mental health.

However, there are ways to combat the effects of growing up with a narcissistic parent. Here are some tips for dealing with the aftermath of narcissistic parenting:

  1. Seek Support

One of the most important things you can do is to seek support from others. Whether it’s talking to a therapist, joining a support group, or confiding in a trusted friend, it’s important to have people in your life who can offer you validation, understanding, and emotional support.

  1. Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with a narcissistic parent. This means being clear about what you will and will not tolerate, and communicating those boundaries in a firm but respectful way. It may also mean limiting contact with your parent, especially if they continue to be emotionally abusive or manipulative.

  1. Practice Self-Care

Self-care is an essential practice for anyone, but it’s especially important for those who have experienced narcissistic parenting. This means taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. It may involve things like exercise, meditation, therapy, or spending time with people who make you feel good about yourself.

  1. Challenge Negative Self-Talk

Children of narcissistic parents often internalize the negative messages they receive, leading to a negative self-image and low self-esteem. It’s important to challenge these negative beliefs and replace them with more positive and affirming self-talk. This may involve seeking the help of a therapist or practicing self-compassion and self-love.

  1. Forgive Yourself

It’s important to remember that none of what happened was your fault. Children of narcissistic parents often blame themselves for their parent’s behavior, but it’s important to recognize that you were not responsible for your parent’s actions or feelings. It’s important to forgive yourself for any mistakes you feel you made, and to focus on moving forward and creating a positive future for yourself.

In conclusion, growing up with a narcissistic parent can be a traumatic experience, but there are ways to combat the effects of narcissistic parenting. Seeking support, setting boundaries, practicing self-care, challenging negative self-talk, and forgiving yourself are all essential steps in healing and moving forward. Remember, you are not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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Caring for Ourselves, Caring for the World: How Self-Care Allows us to Pour into our Families.

Healing and caregiving are part of the natural essence of the Black woman. From the dawn of time, Black women have been the ones who bring healing, comfort, and care to those around them. We are born nurturers and have always been throughout history.

But as Black women, we often put others’ needs before our own, forgetting that we must first care for ourselves before we can pour into others. It is crucial to remember that self-care is not selfish. It is essential to take care of ourselves first so that we can show up fully for others.

When we care for ourselves, we show ourselves love and respect. We honor our bodies, our minds, and our spirits. This self-care is necessary because it allows us to be our best selves, the ones who show up for our loved ones, and for the world.

If we pour into others before looking after ourselves, we may experience exhaustion, burnout, and even resentment. It’s like pouring water from an empty cup. When we take care of ourselves first, our cups become full, and we can pour into others from a place of abundance, love, and strength.

The practice of self-care can take many forms. It can be as simple as taking a few minutes each day to breathe, meditate, or stretch. It can be as indulgent as a spa day or a solo vacation. It can be as practical as making time to exercise, eat healthily, or get enough sleep.

Self-care also means setting boundaries and saying no when we need to. As Black women, we are often expected to be the ones who take care of everything and everyone. But we must remember that we are not superheroes. We have limits, and it’s okay to say no when we need to rest, recharge, or prioritize our own needs.

When we care for ourselves, we set an example for others. We show our children, our partners, and our communities that it is essential to prioritize self-care. We break cycles of harm and neglect that have been passed down from generation to generation.

Self-care is not a luxury; it is a necessity. By prioritizing our own health and well-being, we show ourselves love and respect. We set an example for others and break cycles of harm and neglect. When we take care of ourselves, we can show up fully for our loved ones and for the world, pouring from a place of abundance, love, and strength.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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Finding Peace Amidst the Chaos: How Meditation Can Improve our Lives.

Meditation is a practice that has been around for centuries, and its benefits are well-known. For Moms of color, who often face unique challenges and stressors, meditation can be an especially powerful tool for improving mental and physical health.

Here are some of the benefits of meditation for Moms of color:

  1. Reduces Stress and Anxiety

Stress and anxiety can take a toll on our mental and physical health, but meditation has been shown to be an effective way to reduce both. By practicing meditation, Moms of color can learn how to better manage stress and anxiety, and improve their overall sense of well-being.

  1. Improves Sleep Quality

Many Moms of color struggle with getting enough quality sleep, which can have a negative impact on their mental and physical health. Meditation has been shown to improve sleep quality, helping Moms of color to feel more rested and energized.

  1. Boosts Immune System

Meditation has also been shown to have a positive impact on the immune system, helping to strengthen the body’s ability to fight off illness and disease. This is especially important for Moms of color, who may face higher rates of certain health conditions.

  1. Increases Focus and Attention

Moms of color often have to juggle many responsibilities and tasks, which can make it difficult to focus and pay attention. Meditation has been shown to improve focus and attention, making it easier for Moms of color to stay on task and be more productive.

  1. Enhances Emotional Well-Being

Meditation can also help Moms of color to cultivate a greater sense of emotional well-being. By practicing meditation, Moms of color can learn how to better regulate their emotions and respond to difficult situations in a more positive and constructive way.

  1. Lowers Blood Pressure

High blood pressure is a common health concern for Moms of color, but meditation has been shown to be an effective way to lower blood pressure. By reducing stress and promoting relaxation, meditation can help to improve heart health and reduce the risk of heart disease.

  1. Increases Self-Awareness

Meditation is a practice that encourages self-reflection and self-awareness, which can be incredibly beneficial for Moms of color. By becoming more self-aware, Moms of color can better understand their own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and make positive changes to improve their lives and the lives of their families.

  1. Improves Relationships

Meditation can also help to improve relationships, both with oneself and with others. By promoting emotional regulation and empathy, Moms of color can develop stronger, healthier relationships with their partners, children, and friends.

In conclusion, meditation has many benefits for Moms of color. From reducing stress and anxiety to improving sleep quality and boosting the immune system, meditation can help Moms of color to improve their mental and physical health. By practicing meditation, Moms of color can cultivate a greater sense of emotional well-being, increase focus and attention, and improve relationships with themselves and others. If you’re a Mom of color looking to improve your health and well-being, consider incorporating meditation into your daily routine.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.

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The Science of Generational Trauma: How Epigenetics Affects Moms of Color and Their Children

Epigenetics is a big word that may seem hard to understand, but it’s actually a really cool and important topic that affects Moms of color and their children. In fact, epigenetics can explain how some things that happened to our ancestors can still affect us today!

First, let’s talk about what genes are. Genes are like the blueprint for our bodies. They determine things like our eye color, hair color, and even how tall we are. We inherit genes from our parents, but did you know that we can also inherit something called epigenetic changes from our parents too?

Epigenetics is like a little switch that can turn our genes on or off. These switches can be turned on or off by things like our environment, diet, and lifestyle. But here’s the really cool part: these switches can also be turned on or off by things that happened to our ancestors!

For Moms of color, this is especially important to understand because some harmful experiences like racism, poverty, and trauma can leave a mark on our genes that can be passed down to our children. This means that the things that our ancestors went through can still affect us today.

But don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that we’re stuck with these harmful marks on our genes forever. In fact, by understanding epigenetics, we can take steps to protect our children and future generations.

One of the most important things we can do is to make sure that we take care of ourselves and our children. This means eating healthy foods, getting enough sleep, and finding ways to reduce stress. When we take care of ourselves, we’re not only protecting our own health but also the health of future generations.

Another important thing we can do is to create a positive and supportive environment for our children. Studies have shown that a supportive and loving environment can actually help to turn off harmful switches that may have been turned on by our ancestors.

It’s also important to remember that we’re not alone. By connecting with other Moms of color and seeking out resources, we can find support and guidance on how to protect our children and future generations.

In conclusion, epigenetics is a really cool and important topic that affects Moms of color and their children. It can explain how some harmful experiences from our ancestors can still affect us today. But by understanding epigenetics, we can take steps to protect our children and future generations. By taking care of ourselves, creating a positive and supportive environment, and connecting with others, we can help to break harmful cycles and create a brighter future for our children.

With Love, Lakischa Smith

Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American maternal health aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.