As Black mothers, we often hear the phrase “passing the torch” when it comes to raising our children. It’s a powerful metaphor—one that symbolizes handing down knowledge, values, and purpose to the next generation. But let’s take a moment to ask ourselves: Do I have a torch to pass? And, perhaps more importantly, Is my torch worth passing?
These questions aren’t about doubting ourselves as mothers—they’re about accountability and reflection. What are we teaching our children through our actions, our words, and the way we navigate the world? Are we preparing them to carry on a legacy of strength, love, and resilience, or are we unknowingly passing down fear, doubt, or unresolved pain?
What Is Your Torch?
Your torch is your legacy. It’s the values you live by, the lessons you teach, and the way you show up for your family and community. It’s built from the choices you make, the battles you fight, and the healing you commit to.
Think about it: Are you actively building a torch you want your child to carry? Is it a flame that represents empowerment, cultural pride, and the tools they’ll need to lead and make a difference? Or is it a flicker weighed down by unresolved wounds and unspoken lessons?
It’s okay if your torch isn’t perfect—none of ours are. But recognizing the areas where we can grow is the first step to creating a legacy that’s truly worth passing down.
Why the Torch Matters
The world our children are growing up in is full of challenges. They’ll face racism, systemic inequality, and moments that test their self-worth. But when they have a strong torch—a foundation of identity, resilience, and purpose—they’ll be better equipped to navigate those challenges and create change.
Our children look to us for guidance. They mimic what we do, listen to what we say (even when it doesn’t seem like it), and internalize how we handle life. When we show them what it looks like to lead with love, fight for justice, and take pride in who we are, we give them the tools to carry that flame into the future.
How to Build a Torch Worth Passing
- Heal Your Own Wounds
Our children inherit more than just our genetics—they inherit our emotional and spiritual legacy. Take time to address your own pain and break cycles that no longer serve your family. Healing yourself is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. - Model Leadership
Show your kids what it means to lead in small and big ways. Whether it’s volunteering in your community, standing up for what’s right, or simply being consistent in your values, your actions will teach them more than words ever could. - Celebrate Your Culture
Make sure your children understand the beauty of their heritage. Teach them about their history, their ancestors, and the traditions that connect them to something greater than themselves. - Pass Down Tools for Change
Equip your children with the skills and mindset to make a difference. Teach them about activism, community involvement, and the power of their voice. Remind them that they are part of a legacy of changemakers.
Preparing the Next Generation to Lead
Passing the torch isn’t just about what we teach our kids—it’s about what we leave behind. Are we creating a legacy that uplifts and empowers them? Are we showing them what it means to love themselves, their community, and their culture?
As you reflect on your torch, ask yourself: What kind of flame am I passing to my child? If it’s not yet the one you want to pass, there’s still time to build it.
At AfroYogiKids.com, we believe in creating spaces that help children build strong foundations of mindfulness, self-awareness, and cultural pride. These are the tools they’ll need to carry their torches with confidence and light the way for others.
Black mothers, the future of our communities depends on the torches we pass today. Let’s make sure our flames burn brightly, lighting a path for our children to lead, thrive, and continue building the legacy we’ve started.
With Love, Lakischa Smith
Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American parenthood aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.