Why Every Mom Deserves a Solo Date (And How to Plan One!)
Motherhood is a beautiful journey, but it can also be exhausting, overwhelming, and all-consuming. As moms, we pour so much into our children, partners, and responsibilities that we often forget to pour into ourselves. That’s why every mom deserves a solo date—a special time dedicated to self-care, self-discovery, and pure enjoyment without any guilt.
The Importance of Solo Dates for Moms
- Reconnecting with Yourself – When was the last time you did something just for you? Solo dates give you the space to remember who you are beyond being a mother.
- Reducing Stress – Stepping away from responsibilities, even briefly, can refresh your mind and spirit, helping you to show up as a more present and energized mother.
- Boosting Confidence – Spending time alone builds self-love and reminds you that you are enough, just as you are. Engaging in activities that bring you joy fosters a sense of self-worth.
- Modeling Self-Care – When your children see you taking care of yourself, they learn the importance of balance and boundaries. This teaches them that self-care is not selfish but necessary.
- Enhancing Creativity – Time alone allows your mind to wander and explore new ideas. You may discover new interests, hobbies, or solutions to challenges in motherhood and life.
How to Plan the Perfect Solo Date
1. Choose a Date & Time
Pick a time that works best for you and commit to it—just like you would for any important appointment. Treat it as sacred time for yourself, and don’t let other obligations take priority over it.
2. Decide on Your Activity
Your solo date should be something that brings you joy and relaxation. Here are some ideas:
- Café or Bookstore Visit – Enjoy a warm drink and a good book, or simply soak in the peaceful atmosphere.
- Spa Day or Bubble Bath Night – Pamper yourself with a luxurious bath, face mask, or even a professional spa treatment.
- Nature Walk or Beach Stroll – Reconnect with peace and nature by taking a walk in a park or along the shore.
- Movie Night (Alone!) – Watch that film you’ve been wanting to see without interruptions or compromise.
- Creative Escape – Try painting, journaling, knitting, or a fun DIY project to spark creativity.
- Music and Movement – Dance freely in your living room, do yoga, or attend a dance class to release energy and stress.
- Take Yourself Out to Dinner – Enjoy a solo dining experience at your favorite restaurant. Savor the meal, and enjoy your own company.
- Staycation or Mini-Retreat – Book a night at a hotel or an Airbnb for an extended solo experience away from your usual surroundings.
3. Set the Mood
Make it special! Wear something that makes you feel confident, play your favorite music, and fully embrace the experience. Treat yourself the way you deserve to be treated—this is your moment to feel valued and cared for.
4. Unplug & Be Present
Turn off notifications, put your phone on silent, and allow yourself to be fully in the moment without distractions. Social media can wait—this is your personal escape.
5. Reflect & Celebrate Yourself
After your solo date, take a moment to appreciate yourself for making time for YOU. Maybe even journal about how you felt, what you enjoyed, and what you want to do next. Acknowledge that your well-being matters and that you are worthy of prioritizing yourself.
Final Thoughts
Every mom deserves joy, rest, and time to herself—not just occasionally, but regularly. A solo date is not selfish; it’s an act of self-love and an investment in your well-being. By making space for yourself, you become a more fulfilled and balanced person, which benefits not just you but your family as well.
So, what’s stopping you? Plan your solo date today, prioritize your joy, and reclaim your peace, mama!
With Love, Lakischa Smith
Meet Lakischa Smith, a proud mother and a dedicated public health advocate. With a Bachelor’s from Dillard University and a Master’s in Public Health from Florida International University, she’s committed to sharing honest narratives about black motherhood. Lakischa believes in fostering sisterhood to combat the pervasive forces of white supremacy, and empowering African American women to be agents of change for future generations. She asserts that recognizing and addressing our community’s struggles is crucial, for healing is the key to moving forward. Armed with the power of education and a deep belief in collective action, Lakischa is determined to ensure that the issues impacting African American parenthood aren’t just seen—they’re addressed and resolved.