It isn’t a secret, parenting while black comes with many more concerns than sleepovers, proms, and finding the perfect daycare. You know, the typical things that all moms wonder about? Instead, black parenting comes equipped with a much more political standpoint. It comes with a heaping of more serious concerns that frankly, white parents can’t relate to and surely wouldn’t care to. Can we blame them? As black parents we have to worry about living in a country that sticks by the standards of white supremacy. Meaning that our kids will have to face certain obstacles throughout their entire lives that many white kids will never see surface in their lifetime.
The truth is we are not delusional and our struggles and concerns are not to be taken lightly. We have questions such as “Are our kids are getting the proper education that will help them soar in a society that is more against them than they are for them?” “How will our children’s psych be impacted by the way media represents black and brown faces?” “Will our children be a victims of police brutality because of racism, ignorance, and/or fear?” “Will our children be racially profiled, keeping them from landing a job due to their name sounding too black or having a shopping experience ruined by being bullied, followed, and questioned, regardless of their innocence?” All things that most white parents freely turn a blind eye to; because their kids are not the ones impacted.
Furthermore, according to studies, many more of us have to be concerned about how we will provide for our children, save for their futures, and simply make it by week to week. According to LA Times “African Americans have the lowest earnings of any racial group by far. While median household income for African Americans was just over $39,000 last year, it was over $47,000 for Latinos, over $65,000 for whites and over $81,000 for Asian American households.” These numbers are directed to the year 2016, however, today African Americans are still at the bottom of economic growth. These number are tough to swallow when you bring a kid(s) into the family, in today’s society with the rising cost of living the situation can turn extremely stressful. Why are we are the main ones feeling the impact and (side-note:) why are we the main ones financing Asian American families pockets?…but that’s another topic.
It’s unfortunate that we have these differences in parenting concerns, but its inevitable when we live in a country that wasn’t built for the growth of African American families. Once we begin to realize that our unity is a critical factor to master for the betterment of our children and our communities, many of us will fail at trying to convenience those “in power” to make changes for us. We have to come together and do it for ourselves. We have to open our eyes and minds to the changes that need to happen and make them happen together, as a team, as a community.
Written By: Lakischa Smith